Family Relationship

I find that family relationship is the most difficult relationship to deal with. We are so close to each other, so that we are very sensitive to each other's attitude, actions, behavior, and whatsoever. Because we are so close, it is easy to get hurt by each other. When we get hurt, we seldom confront, but gossip to other members. Therefore, more conflicts and misunderstandings happen among us. One will complain to other members how much he/she suffer from other member, and the listener, in most cases, will totally feel sorry for him/ her and feel angry to the one he/she complains. I always wonder why relatives would be like that? Why they take side without fully comprehend what really happened? Why they don't help each other to reconcile but further damage their relationship? What kind of example they set to their offsprings? All these questions always in my mind and remind myself that I need to be neutral when I am the 'middle person'. I don't want to create more problems because of me implusive reaction! I don't want my daughter follow the wrong path of dealing with family conflicts.